Dear Helen Hartman,
Much as yourself, as a service to others I go out of my way to tell people exactly what I think about what they do, wear, cook, say, read, eat and so forth. However, this is not as welcomed an attitude as one might expect. Where is the appreciation? Would love to know how to help others see that I am doing them a favor?
Dear Loves to "Help" One,
In the first place, Helen does not go ‘out of her way’ for anything. If things get in Helen’s way… well, THAT’s another story! But back to you, Loved One, you make me think of one of my favorite CS Lewis quotes of all time: “She’s the kind of woman who lives for others - you can tell the others by their hunted expressions.”
Still, I have no doubt you are a popular party guest… hmmm, party guest…. That puts Helen in mind of you know who…Ahh, Amy, Amy Amy....who said:
Only great fool or a great genius is likely to flout all social grace with impunity, and neither one, doing so, makes the most comfortable companion. Amy Vanderbilt (1952)
To which Helen can only say... Huh?
Still, when it comes to serving others I do like the words of Andy of The Andy Griffith Show to his Aunt Bee Taylor when she questioned his manners for not complimenting her white beans: Eatin' speaks louder than words.
|Did y'all know that Frances Bavier, who played Aunt Bee, was not a warm, motherly figure to the cast of the show?|
Amy and Aunt Bee, they might not have been what they seemed but they are perfect for illustrating a very old but always timely fable from India:
The Wasp and the Bee
A wasp complained to a bee one day: We both have wings and stingers and in many ways are much alike, even though I am prettier than you and more social, coming around people’s tables and into their homes. Yet where ever I build my nest the humans knock it down, they swat at me and delight in my demise. But those same humans plant flowers to attract you and build homes for your Queen and her many children. It doesn’t make any sense to me.
|Queen Bee? I like the sound of that.|
|Be a lamb and fill this up for yourself, Biff. On my new diet I'm allowed to stare at desert for a whole thirty seconds before I throw it out and eat a lettuce leaf and I don't want to miss a moment of it.|
You don’t have to be
As honey all the time. In fact, Helen is more likely to have a little kick
|Vintage pins, tres jolie, n'est pas?|
When she tries to soften the sting of her often blunt personality.
Helen’s just sayin’ - maybe you need a little less attitude and a little more gratitude. Let Helen show you how it’s done.
Great estate sale finds today:
|All this for $5!!|
I LOVE the hair dryer (details Monday, I think) but would never have considered getting it no matter how cheap if Vintage Vixen (if you are not reading her blog – wing your way over there asap) hadn’t shared about turning one into a LAMP! SO excited to try that project. Many thanks!
A dish that I had admired but would never have picked up off the shelf if I had had Pink Saturdayat HOW SWEET THE SOUND on my mind – and if I hadn’t picked it up I’d never have seen it was just a buck! Had to have it and have to thank Beverly for her link party!
Also thanks today, a bit belated - more internet slow down today - to Tanya at Greetings from the Asylum for a mention in her lovely blog award post!
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you to them and to all my readers and fellow bloggers, I am humbled by your talent and vision and support.
See, that didn't hurt... much. (Did I actually say humbled? - Helen thinks she feels one of her headaches coming on....)
|Just sit me over here on my throne... I mean chair.|
Is it happy hour yet? Well, why limit happiness to an hour? Have a happy Weekend!