Dear Helen Hartman
I would love to know your answer to a very simple question: Do you believe people can change?
Dear Loved One,
This reply will be a bit of a departure for Helen – don’t worry, she hasn’t lost her sense of humor just that every time someone asks Helen a question she asks herself a question in return.
|Is the question - Do you not own a mirror? Because I can't believe you went out dressed like that. That's what I think most of the time when people are talking to me.|
What Helen asks herself - what does this person really want to know? What are they longing to hear? What do they need to hear, even if they decide not to listen? Mostly here people want a laugh but sometimes they also want more.
|Many often want to know where to hide the evidence. I always suggest under the mattress so it's close at hand but not a place just anyone would have access to... unless you're that tramp, Teresa.|
When anyone asks that question – can people change? Helen hears someone asking for permission – permission to move forward, permission to trust, permission to believe. “Tell me the person who promises they have changed really can be a better person. Tell me my heart is safe.”
|You can always count on me, kid.|
Helen can’t tell you that of course. But she can tell you that she understands deep in the core of her being that life is change.
|Cave Hill Cemetery and Arboretum, Louisville Ky|
This season most of all reminds us that change is not the end, but the letting fall away that which no longer serves us to prepare for what comes next.
|Happy Endings are overrated but something that changes your viewpoint - automatically? That could come in handy!|
Not all change is good, of course. And not everyone embraces it. Hubby Hartman told me just last week that he HATES change.
|So Helen doesn't feel compelled to go to great lengths tidying up. Wouldn't want the sudden change of a clean house upsetting Hubby, right?|
But everyday brings something new, a new challenge, a new opportunity. Change.
|Proof that not all change is good.|
Has the person you are asking about changed? Helen can’t tell you that. Can people change? They can and do, but not always in the ways you expect or want. The good news is, you can change too and if you are unhappy or in a situation that is weighing your spirit down, you can and should change it.