Dear Helen Hartman,
My sister-in-law delights in telling people how out of date I am. She says she is only kidding when she jokes about my Brady Bunch Sunshine Day outlook on life. Sometimes she can be such a…a…a Marcia, Marcia, Marcia! Love some advice on what to do when someone criticizes you for living in the past.
Dear Loved Life As a 'JAN" until Marcia Ruined It One,
Helen is tempted to ask: Why shouldn’t I live in the past? I know all the music there.
|And Helen is NOT afraid to dance The Pony to prove it!|
As is usually the case you have practically already answered your own question!
|Helen's legal counsel would like to issue this disclaimer: Solving your own problems is a complicated and arduous undertaking best left to professionals. Do Not Try This At Home.|
I like to think this is because the average Dear Helen Hartman reader is smarter than she/he often gives her/his self credit for being.
First you say your sil DELIGHTS in deviling you. Sounds to me like she is a bit of a bully. Like most bullies, even the ones who swear they are "just kidding", she is getting something out of her needling at your expense.
|How do they sleep at night? Even VERA sheets from the finest department stores can't soothe their troubled spirits.|
The key here is that you say you are LIVING in the past. In other words whatever you are doing that has others up in arms is part of how you chose to live. The time to worry is not when you are living your life but when you are STUCK.
|Stuck is bad. Whether it is sticking your ad in a weird juxtaposition or not reading carefully and getting your false teeth and, um, other body openings stuck with Dap.|
If you are stuck in the past (or in the present or in the future – yes, you CAN be stuck in the future when you think “when I lose 10 lbs or when I pay off this debt, THEN I’ll really start livin’”) That’s not a good thing. Put having a Sunshine Day outlook? I say embrace it.
|But be smart about all things sunshiney, I don't think they even MAKE SOLARCANE anymore and frankly, it never really worked that well anyway!|
And Next time your sil gives you a hard time – start singing this:
That’ll teach her!
That’ll teach her!